Since i started this subject, i though to provide more light on this through different statistics from different sites which will actually put more light into the problem.
Here i have copied more statistics of such insane and probably a fake profile from 2 more of India's popular Matrimony sites. Considering these numbers are a true depiction of the existing social issue, why are more and more people trying their luck of life on these portals? Is it ease of use or just another pass time or is it really that we depend on technology so much so that we are unable to make our decisions about life on our own?
Some time back i happened to visit a local festival in the southern part of India. My attention was caught on not the usual fun things the locals did but a robot telling the future of people who pay Rs.10/- per trial.
It kept me thinking, why instead of paying the same Rs.10/- to a local astrologer might have given much fairer and also the solution for the existing problem to that person, rather than paying that lifeless, emotionless item that had more LEDs than its own memory?
This is where my thought towards our dependency on technology rather than astrology or any ancient science took me. I did some digging towards the same kind of behavior in urban population and what best to check than the dating sites or matrimony sites, what ever you call them.
Now i have given the background of my information gathering and so asked one of my known associates to give his statistics for my report and i got the real deal. Got what i wanted as he was trying to find his match online through various means and still not able to decide. Pity him though, but he really helped me with my blog, i can say.
Some of the numbers that really need to put some thought in those statistics are the ones that was initiated from the person. These are like, interests expressed, request sent and so on. These numbers really tells the persons attitude towards choosing the right person for his life partner.
One thought says, this person is a bad decision maker and accepts that he/she has an issue with life and the decisions.
Some of the serious matters need to be addressed by the person acceptance, insight and work out personal issues or ask for help.
Another way of seeing the same is that the guy is extremely over confident and so each time his request is accepted, he tends to rise his bar for a higher criteria to find a better partner. This generally happens with guys as they start thinking that they can find any girl of their choice, may be because of their power politically, economically or intellectually.
But are these the conditions for finding a better partner? Does he ever think that the choice should also work form the other side?
Worse yet, if the guy finds a girl who is extremely over confident and constantly rise the bar of her requirement higher and higher each time he meets similar guy?
Another possible problem with this kind of approach would be the compatability quotient between the partenrs found in this manner?Did each of them think that they are better at what they do because of the other person? I guess the answer is NO here.
This is based on the fact that both have kept on raising their possible acceptance criteria based on the other persons status and so think that they are themselves capable of setting a higher criteria for the other person. This leads to a massive psychological pattern where the spiral of doom never stops.
The Spiraling effect can sustain only until the very building block of this spiral is stable which in most case is the self esteem or the over confidence in ones self.
Will this spiral ever stop in their life?
Will they ever realize that the spiral has already inverted its direction and they are still lost in their confinement of deep rooted psychosis?
Will they allow themselves to reach the doom up to the bottom or will they improve their lives based on the wrongs they did and try to make things right at some point?
I think there is a lot to think in this pattern and study on the lives of people who have had success after creating such statistics in their personal profile.
I bet, each one with such statistics will end up in a good old arranged marriage way rather than finding their own partner. Ultimately realizing life is not worth the search and accept the very opposite person whom he/she wanted to avoid the whole time.
Probably the success/failure cases should be measured by considering this kind of statistics. Anyone with a lesser numbers in these statistics is 80%-90% times probable to have a successful relationship than the one with this kind large of statistics. Probably who ever want to find their partner on these portals should also concentrate on these numbers. Thats the underlying statement of my effort to bring these numbers into public.
